01 Feb 2019

Written by Three Bakers’ Founder & Head Baker, Dan Trygar

I knew from the moment I set eyes on her that Jane was the woman I would marry.

Yeah, it’s a little cliche. But we’ve been happily married for 24 years now and have 4 lovely kids. I think I’ve earned the right to be a little cheesy.

Married life has always been pretty blissful for the two of us – aside from the minor squabbles that happen when you work at a family business together – but Jane’s health problems made me worry.

After several years of misdiagnosis, she found out she had celiac disease. The diagnosis was a relief. With our background in baking, I knew we could figure out ways to replace the foods she had grown up within her father’s bakery.

But as anyone with a gluten-free partner knows, the gluten-free lifestyle is about more than just making the right foods. There are all sorts of lifestyle choices you have to make as a couple. These choices can be difficult, especially when you’ve developed habits that are now unsafe for the gluten-free individual.

The most important thing is to prevent feeling bitter or rebellious towards your partner and their disease. Celiac disease or a gluten allergy isn’t something they’re doing to you to make your life hard. I know it sounds crazy to even have to mention it, but sometimes we slip into this irrational, negative thinking without even realizing it.

A Husband’s Guide to Supporting Your Celiac Partner

Through my personal experience and talking to people about supporting a gluten-free partner, I’ve come up with three primary pieces of advice:

Commit to supporting your partner unconditionally. Before you do anything else, you need to decide that you’re going to be there for your partner. Yes, even when giving them a kiss means first gargling mouthwash. And, yes, especially when you have to call every restaurant in town to find one that they can eat in for your anniversary.

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Educate yourself. You might still make mistakes, but you’re chances are much slimmer if you proactively educate yourself on celiac disease and other issues around gluten-free living. I attended all of the celiac support meetings with Jane and don’t regret a minute of it. The information I learned helped her know that I was committed, and kept me from making rookie mistakes like cross-contamination.

Adopt a ‘Why not!’ attitude. Are there ways you can accommodate your partner’s diet while still satisfying your own cravings and need for social interaction? Of course. With the number of gluten-free options in restaurants and on supermarket shelves steadily increasing, when your partner makes a request of you for different gluten-free options, try saying ‘Why not!’ instead of ‘Not possible’. That’s how we ended up with our own gluten-free bakery!

What has helped you be a good supporter of your gluten-free partner?  — Dan Trygar



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